Dirty talk may feel strange at first as you pick your brain for the perfect dirty things to say to your partner. Relax a little—talking dirty isn't an exact science, and navigating it relies more on how comfortable you are versus how much you know about it. Here's how to talk dirty during sex, plus sexy things to say to your partner outside the bedroom to build excitement. Give yourself permission to go at your own pace. Sharing your fantasies via text may be a better choice if you're not comfortable with any face-to-face play yet. You're on nobody's schedule to learn how to dirty talk except your own.