Inside The Mind Of Guys Who Are Shy And Inexperienced With Women
Over the years several women have written me to tell me reading this site has helped them understand the actions of a shy guy they were pursuing. With that in mind I thought I'd try to be even more helpful and write a whole article outlining what it's like to be a man who's really shy and inexperienced with women. At the end I give a few thoughts on what to do if there's a shy guy in your life you're interested in. Combined, the points below describe a guy who's really, really inhibited and awkward around women. Not all shy men deal with issues that intense or will have every characteristic apply to them. I also wrote a follow up to this article on some of the unique issues shy women struggle with. Shy guys are really nervous around women I'll break this down further below, but their central problem is that they're just really anxiousscared, and inhibited around women. Almost all men get a little nervous when they have to ask a woman out, make a move to kiss her, or even talk to her for the first time.
Initiating sex usually falls on you. Why do some women hardly ever accomplish the first move, and how should you bring up your desire? Nicole Prause, a sex psychophysiologist and neuroscientist and who studies arousal and orgasmssuggests the disparity may be less a propos traditional societal biases and more a propos the fact that women get aroused differently than men — and can need a little help getting started. Family therapist Jill Whitney agrees.